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How to not die alone : the surprising science that will help you find love / Logan Ury.

Ury, Logan, (author.).

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Love, as the saying goes, make fools of us all. But behavioral scientist and dating coach Logan Ury wants to fix that. A lasting, loving relationship doesn't just happen. It's the result of a series of decisions: when to date, who to date, who to settle down with, if you should break up, and everything in between. Very often, we don't understand why we're making certain decisions, and that causes us to make mistakes. And our current dating environment-with its overwhelming amount of options and constant pressure to make the right choice-only makes those decisions harder. Logan studied psychology at Harvard and spent years researching relationships. Here, she explains expectations, emotions, and other invisible forces that drive our faulty decision-making. But awareness on its own doesn't lead to action. (Knowing you shouldn't date "bad boys" or "manic pixie dream girls" doesn't make them any less appealing.) You have to do something. And Logan shows you how. Each chapter focuses on a different decision, from the first date on, and includes big ideas from behavioral science, original research, hands-on exercises, and stories about people just like you, to help you find-and keep-love. You'll learn: -What's really holding you back in dating-it's not what you think (and how to overcome it) -How to meet people in real life (and how to not come off as creepy) -Why your current dating app filters won't find a great match (and how to fix them) -Why you should always go on a second date (unless you're getting serious serial killer vibes) -Why "The One" doesn't exist (but you'll find love anyway) ... and much more!
A lasting, loving relationship doesn't just happen. It's the result of a series of decisions: when to date, who to date, who to settle down with, if you should break up, and everything in between. Our current dating environment, with its overwhelming amount of options and constant pressure to make the right choice, only makes those decisions harder. Ury spent years researching relationships, and here explains expectations, emotions, and other invisible forces that drive our faulty decision-making. You have to do something. And Ury shows you how. - adapted from info provided

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  • ISBN: 9781982120627
  • ISBN: 1982120622
  • ISBN: 9781982120634
  • ISBN: 1982120630
  • Physical Description: 335 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
  • Publisher: New York : Simon & Schuster, 2021.

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Introduction -- Getting ready. Why dating is harder now than ever before ; The three dating tendencies ; Disney lied to us ; Don't let perfect be the enemy of great ; Don't wait, date ; Learn your attachment style ; Look for a life partner, not a prom date -- Getting out there. You think you know what you want, but you're wrong ; Meet people IRL (In Real Life) ; This is a date, not a job interview ; F**k the spark ; Go on the second date -- Getting serious. Decide, don't slide ; Stop hitching and stop ditching ; Make a breakup plan ; Reframe your breakup as a gain, not a loss ; Before you tie the knot, do this ; Intentional love.
Subject: Dating (Social customs) > Psychological aspects.
Interpersonal relations > Psychological aspects.
Intimacy (Psychology)
Genre: Self-help publications.

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How to Not Die Alone : The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love
How to Not Die Alone : The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love
by Ury, Logan
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Table of Contents

How to Not Die Alone : The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love

SectionSection DescriptionPage Number
Author's Notep. ix
Introductionp. 1
Section 1Getting Ready
Chapter 1    Why Dating Is Harder Now Than Ever Before
        How to Understand the Challenges of Modern Datingp. 9
Chapter 2    The Three Dating Tendencies
        How to Discover Your Dating Blind Spotsp. 17
Chapter 3    Disney Lied to Us
        How to Overcome the Romanticizer Tendencyp. 23
Chapter 4    Don't Let Perfect Be the Enemy of Great
        How to Overcome the Maximizer Tendencyp. 37
Chapter 5    Don't Wait, Date
        How to Overcome the Hesitater Tendencyp. 49
Chapter 6    Learn Your Attachment Style
        How to Manage Your Attachment Stylep. 65
Chapter 7    Look for a Life Partner, Not a Prom Date
        How to Focus on What Matters in a Long-Term Partnerp. 75
Section 2Getting Out There
Chapter 8    You Think You Know What You Want, but You're Wrong
        How to Avoid the Pitfalls of Online Datingp. 105
Chapter 9    Meet People IRL (In Real Life) How to Find Love off the Dating Appsp. 131
Chapter 10    This Is a Date, Not a Job Interview
        How to Create Better Datesp. 149
Chapter 11    F**k the Spark
        How to Reject Myths About Instant Chemistryp. 171
Chapter 12    Go on the Second Date
        How to Decide if You Should See Someone Againp. 179
Section 3Getting Serious
Chapter 13    Decide, Don't Slide
        How to Consciously Navigate Relationship Milestonesp. 199
Chapter 14    Stop Hitching and Stop Ditching
        How to Decide if You Should Break Upp. 211
Chapter 15    Make a Breakup Plan
        How to Break Up with Someonep. 231
Chapter 16    Reframe Your Breakup as a Gain, Not a Loss
        How to Overcome Heartbreakp. 251
Chapter 17    Before You Tie the Knot, Do This
        How to Decide if You Should Get Marriedp. 267
Chapter 18    Intentional love
        How to Build Relationships That Lastp. 279
Acknowledgmentsp. 289
Appendix
    Critical Conversation Planning Docp. 295
    Relationship Contract: Self-Reflection Worksheetp. 299
    Relationship Contractp. 305
Notesp. 319

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